Mindful May Challenge #5

We all know that emotional rollercoaster but we don’t have to wait till we’re about to drop to acknowledge them. Connecting and observing our emotions is a way to de-clutter from what’s yours, what’s not and what doesn’t support you anymore.
Pen and paper
1. Get into your breath cycle (this instantly CENTRES you)
2. Bring your focus to your heart area and just breathe gently 1 MINUTE
3. Let your mind bring its attention to your heart area and observe the flutters of feelings and emotions emerging
a. Having the mind in observation is similar to observing a movie on the big screen
b. Letting feelings and emotions move and flow without jumping into them 2 MINUTES
4. If you feel yourself stepping into being emotional:
a. Imagine taking 3-5 steps backwards
b. Let the mind notice the emotions instead of you feeling immersed 2 MINUTES
5. Be interested in what you see with curiosity
6. Write down what you observed with your emotions
a. How do you feel now?

Life’s Sliding Doors

Sometimes a ‘Sliding Door’ moment can happen without you realising. A chance or an opportunity that can completely change the direction your life was moving towards. On occasion, if you happen to be in the moment and aware of what’s happening around, you get to choose that ‘Sliding Door’ and magic can happen.

For myself, those sliding door experiences can occur in times of complete awareness and be a conscious choice. These chances and opportunities can become more streamlined with just a bit of work on our side. What we think, what we feel and how we act are telltale signs of what we are attracting into our lives. It creates synchronicity, the law of attraction.

Having an internal structure within ourselves is what gives us the strength and at times blind faith to keep going. This internal process is also an indication of how we relate to our self first and then with others.

The simplest method I use is to reassess my values each year.

As we grow, we change. As we change, our values will change also. Values can simply be explained as core needs and wants that are not being fulfilled or met within us. Or you may want to build and strengthen this quality within you.

Recognising the values that you choose and resonate with, allows you to keep a steady ground. When we become anxious or easily overwhelmed, knowing your values can stop confusion. It’s our internal navigator that guides us during our challenging periods just like a boat with a compass.

In a previous blog, I explained a simple method on how to work out your top 6 values and why it’s a game changer.

1. The first step is working out your values and then refining them to your top six values.

2. The second step is placing them in priority from one – six.

You can read my previous blog on how to get your top six values here

Once you have your top six values in priority, give yourself a ‘high five’ as it’s no mean feat the first time you do this exercise. Take a breath and slowly (and I mean slowly) read your values one at a time. Then let yourself sit with them. You may even what to play around with them again.

Now we’re onto the third step. This is where it gets meaty for me and I love this next step.

3. Write down what each value means to you. Your definition is always focused with a relationship towards yourself. This is an internal connection, one that you can easy connect to by yourself, without anyone else’s influence or actions required. By creating your own definition, you place your stamp on it.

Again, take your time reading each value with their meaning and observe how you feel, your thoughts and any sensations in the body. This method allows you to connect and take ownership of your values. How you define each value, is what breathes life into them.

4. The fourth and final step is how you can action this value daily. The trick is to make it as simple as possible. It’s not about overloading our system or tasks in a day. It’s connecting what actions we do already with a value and their meaning. This way we are constantly reaffirming a value through a daily action.

5. Everyday for a month, find a spot and sit mindfully for three to five minutes a day and read your values, definitions and actions. We’re creating new habits and beliefs so keep on it and then read them every now and then.

For example, take the value ‘trust’ and give it a definition for ownership and with a daily action that connects you to your value.

Value               TRUST
Definition       I believe in me
Action             Every time I look up at the sky and pause, I believe in me

Here are my top six values for 2017!

D Acknowledging my thoughts, feelings & sensations
A Every time I check in with me

D A heart &/or soul frequency
A Every time I place my hand on my heart

D Being mindful
A Every time I breathe in and out

D Following through on my values with my actions, words & thoughts
A Every time I read my values

D I am
A Every time I say ‘I am’ with hands on my hips – Wonder Woman pose

D Taking a step outside my comfort zone
A Whenever I walk

Being aware of your values gives your conscious and unconscious mind a direction to move towards together. So those ‘Sliding Door’ moments can become more frequent. And as for magic, well that’s simply stepping into the rhythm of your life and choosing which opportunities work for you.