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What’s your energy doing – Part 3

Buff and Shine

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There are days where I so want to be out in the world and engaging with others. My energy feels like it’s shining and sparkles with those I come into contact with. Then there are other days where I need to shine for whatever reason (for meetings, workshops or socially) and I’m not in that space and I don’t want to fake it – here’s what I do.

We naturally use our energy to create a presence for our self and project to those around us, it’s how others perceive us. Perception comes through our energy first, then filtered by our five senses and of course the mind kicks in to add a piece of logic (that’s not always right!).

You’ve (Pt:1) detached your energy from everyone and everything around you. (Pt:2) Tucked it all snug into your body and feeling quite solid and strong in your body – BOOM. It’s like you’re ready to create your day or whatever you happen to be doing. It’s that clarity that slips in and a magnified awareness that originates from within you to around you. You’re not easily swayed by other people’s emotions, you’re still very present and beautifully anchored in your own energy, that’s getting more familiar and stronger for you.

The third part of this series is like the icing on the cake, let’s you share that sweetness of life with others around you. One of the reasons I energise (buff) daily is to get that bounce in my step. We all have off days but when we’re topping up daily on our energy levels, it’s much easier to view the world with your cup half full.

You can think of it this way, if you’re always driving your car with the tank in the red and only top it up to a quarter full at most, there’s a lot of gunk moving through the engine from the bottom of the tank. You can never take your eyes of the tank gauge in case you run out of fuel – call me crazy but that’s hard work and super stressful. Filling up completely, makes the car weight steadier and the engine run smoother and for those long drives, you can rest assured there’s fuel in your tank to get you safely there.

When you fill up completely with energy (buff) and let is spill out all around you into your electro-magnetic field (aura), this is what people respond to instantly (your shine). The spilling of energy into our aura is how we strengthen it. It’s our own force field of energy around the body that is strong and shines like the sun. Every time we fill up and let it spill over ourselves, we cleanse our energy from everything around us, like having a shower every day,

For me this is such a beautiful presence to feel within yourself or another person. People will naturally gravitate towards this type of energy as it’s strong and uplifting. Your energy is definite and not easily swayed by other people’s moods. Your energy is also contagious and you have an abundance of it to share around. The best part is, you can do this for yourself every. single. day.

Let’s try it now:

Now you’re use to using your imagination (like daydreaming), so grab a pen, paper and switch on your imagination for the last part of this series.

To energise (BUFF)

  • Ground yourself, then start breathing in and gently pulling in the earth’s energy and fill yourself up completely.
  • Using your breath to move in the energy from the soles of your feet further into your body
  • Let the energy move throughout your body

To strengthen your aura (SHINE)

  • When you feel completely full of energy, just let it settle in and notice how you feel
  • Then using your breath again, let the energy spill out of your crown chakra moving all around your body
  • Do this until you feel or imagine it be 90cm (3 x 30cm ruler) around you – above, below, to your left, your right, in front and behind you

To be feeling full in life is a gift we can give ourselves daily. Then to be able to share this with those we love and come into contact with, now that’s a magical experience!

Part 3 of a three part series.
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What’s your energy doing – Part 2

Centre and Ground

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Arghh! The day has started and your walking from room to room aimlessly trying to get your act together while your mind is in a haze. You’re losing track of time and can’t find your keys, desperately needing to walk out the door. What’s going on?

Well, that’s not a good start to your morning and you can only imagine how the rest of your day pans out at this rate. As I mentioned in my previous post, I have the routine of de-cording myself from others and others from me daily. The second part to my method of madness is, I centre and ground my energy.

By centring yourself, you bring all your energy back so it’s nice and snug within you. You might ask yourself what difference does this makes to going about your day, BUT it makes a huge difference! It helps align your energy so it’s more organised. Instead of feeling scattered and fragmented, it’s allows you to pause and come back to a centred place. It activates your mind so you can think straight. That hazy mind simply dissipates and a gentle clarity begins in your mind. You’re able to focus and systematically work out what needs to be done and in which priority. So instead of feeling like a kite blowing in the sky, you’re back here in your body.

Once you’ve brought back all your energy into your body, the next step is to ground or earth yourself, meaning to ground your energy. By grounding, you create an anchor into the earth. Our energy is similar to an electrical current and electricians will always ground or earth electricity as a way to work it. It allows to you be more solid in your body which generates our ability to take action, strong deliberate action. Accompany this with being clear minded prior to taking action, well you can see where I’m going with this.

A clear mind with focused attention creates a clear path. Add intended action to this and you’re going to accomplish a lot more with less energy spent. We all have deadlines and a schedule to work with and by simply centring and grounding your energy at different times throughout the day, you’re moving away from stress and chaos. You’re more present for yourself and those around you and the best part is, your energy isn’t like a raging storm.

As I share this method with my clients, I explain no one likes to be around or work with a ‘stress head’. This chaotic energy has a ripple effect on those around them (here is where I will de-cord again).  It’s not somebody else’s job to manage your energy just because they’re around you. We’re responsible for our own energy and how it impacts on our self as well as others.

I encourage clients to try this exercise daily for a week and to notice the difference in themselves and how others react to them. It’s really easy and can shift a heavy mood into a more even keeled state – that’s the magic of working with your own energy.

Let’s practice these steps right now:

Grab a pen and paper so you can write down how you feel afterwards (this helps to anchor these feelings within you).

We’re going to use our imagination to work with our energy.

To CENTRE

  • Just take a few slow, deep, deliberate breaths inhaling, holding and exhaling
  • On your second breath in, imagine you’re pulling all your energy back into your body – like tucking yourself into bed
  • Take a few more slow, deep, deliberate breaths and let your energy settle back into your body

To GROUND

  • Each time you exhale, gently push your energy into the ground and imagine a huge anchor dropping into the earth
  • Now when you breathe in, imagine your energy mingling with the earth’s energy grid, like stirring milk into your coffee
  • The earth’s energy is like the foundation of the house. Keeps everything that’s built on top of it strong and steady.
  • If want to be to take it a step further, wait to feel a different energy current move up your body from soles of your feet – that’s the earth’s energy coming through

So don’t let your excuse for always being late or cramming too many things in your day by keeping your head be in the clouds, there’s a time and place for that. Change your habit (yes, it’s only a habit) to being more focused with the ability to take clear and decisive action by practising a couple of steps every day.

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What’s your energy doing – Part 1

De-cording

Like most people in morning, I’ll get up and get ready for the day. I’ll check my hair, what I’m wearing and makeup – tick! However, there are a couple of extra things that I do before I start and end my day. I check in with my energy to see and feel how it’s doing.

We underestimate how our and other peoples’ energy impacts us throughout the day. Just because you can’t necessarily see or physically touch energy, doesn’t mean it’s not affecting our thoughts, emotions or sensations in the body.

Have you ever considered the energy around a person that always has some sort of drama? What about a person who appears to be angry all the time? Then there’s the person that who is so nice but always ends up with the short straw – what’s happening with their energy?

When we casually think, mention or even chat with a person, we’re plugging into their energy. It also happens when they think, mention or chat with us, they’re plugging into our energy. If you want a visual image, think of a massive power board with lots of plugs attached to it. This is what we’re carrying with us all the time unawares. They may be on sleep mode but that energy current is still switched on.

By being constantly connected, we can be running with their thoughts and feelings as our own. We can begin to lose a sense of clarity about ourselves, meaning our thoughts and emotions. It’s automatic for us to connect and plug-in. It’s how we bond with others consciously and unconsciously. At times by doing this, we can begin to unravel.

Sometimes you may feel grumpy and irritated for no reason, you might even feel sad out of the blue. Nothing seems to be wrong except you can’t shake this feeling or thought that keeps coming and repeating itself. What you may find is, that it’s not your feeling or even your thought. It’s someone that you may be carrying (you’ve either corded yourself to them or them to you) without realizing, energetically.

Many clients share with me that they feel pulled in so many directions. They feel heavy and overloaded for no particular reason. Their sense of self seems to have diminished and it gets more challenging to make decisions or even trust them selves.

I encourage my clients to de-cord or unplug each day. It’s really simple and just uses your imagination and focus. Try it for three days and just notice what’s different in your thoughts and feelings.

Let’s get started:

Remember the old style of vacuum cleaners with a retractable cord? You just pressed a button and it finds it’s spot back home into the socket. That’s the image I want you to use.

You may want a paper and pen to jot down a few notes.

  1. Sitting down take a few slow breaths into the belly.
  2. Press your LEFT KNEE and imagine all your retractable cords coming back home to you.
    1. Using your breath to slowly bring them back and finding the perfect spot back in you.
  3. Let it settle and take a couple more breaths.
    1. Notice how you feel and what your thoughts are doing.
  4. Press your RIGHT KNEE and imagine all cords attached to you, simply fall off and drift away from you (don’t concern yourself about who’s cords or issues that’s connected to you).
    1. Again it’s all done with your breath. Breathing is what moves energy around us.
  5. Now take a few more breaths and notice what’s different again.

It’s such a simple practice and teaches us how to get into a mindful state for a few minutes every time. It’s a beautiful way to start and end your day.

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MIndful May Challenge #3

Never underestimate the healing powers of sound and our own sound at that. Many of us are aware of the healing powers of a cat’s purr (it’s true)! Our own internally humming out loud at a certain frequency creates vibration within our body. You may have to practice to get the right depth of your humming but you’ll know when you get there. It’s as if you feel yourself vibrating from the inside – an amazing sensation!

Have your pen and paper ready

  1. Find a spot where you can sit down for a few minutes
  2. Bring your focus to your heart chakra and take a few breaths – 1 MINUTE
  3. Then proceed to slow down each breath in, hold and exhale
    1. All done gently (no forcing) – 1 MINUTE
  4. Now start slow, deliberate, deep belly breaths
    1. Get comfortable with your deep slow breath flow
  5. On each exhalation, begin a soft, slow humming
    1. Keep deepening the hum so it travels down the torso
  6. Observe the sensations within the body as the humming vibrates and moves through you – 3 MINUTES
  7. Write down what you observe
    1. How do you feel now?

 

Mindful May Challenge #1

We want to give the mind a job as we begin to gently slow ourselves down. Coming into the present moment with the mind in observation mode allows us to step into third person style viewing.

A neat little trick of self-awareness.

Let’s start!

Have some pen and paper ready

  1. Find a time that suits you morning, day or night. Get into a comfortable position that you can stay in for a couple of minutes
  2. Close your eyes and bring your attention to your breath
    1. Breathe in gently to the count of FIVE
    2. Softly hold your breath for the count of FIVE
    3. Release slowly your breath for the count of FIVE
  3. Repeat this cycle of breathing x EIGHT
  4. When you finish, write down what you notice about yourself e.g. heart rate, tightness in the body, softness, relaxed, frustrated, relieved, thoughts, feelings, sensations etc

You have just finished 2 minutes of being mindful in your day.

 

 

 

Life’s Sliding Doors

Sometimes a ‘Sliding Door’ moment can happen without you realising. A chance or an opportunity that can completely change the direction your life was moving towards. On occasion, if you happen to be in the moment and aware of what’s happening around, you get to choose that ‘Sliding Door’ and magic can happen.

For myself, those sliding door experiences can occur in times of complete awareness and be a conscious choice. These chances and opportunities can become more streamlined with just a bit of work on our side. What we think, what we feel and how we act are telltale signs of what we are attracting into our lives. It creates synchronicity, the law of attraction.

Having an internal structure within ourselves is what gives us the strength and at times blind faith to keep going. This internal process is also an indication of how we relate to our self first and then with others.

The simplest method I use is to reassess my values each year.

As we grow, we change. As we change, our values will change also. Values can simply be explained as core needs and wants that are not being fulfilled or met within us. Or you may want to build and strengthen this quality within you.

Recognising the values that you choose and resonate with, allows you to keep a steady ground. When we become anxious or easily overwhelmed, knowing your values can stop confusion. It’s our internal navigator that guides us during our challenging periods just like a boat with a compass.

In a previous blog, I explained a simple method on how to work out your top 6 values and why it’s a game changer.

1. The first step is working out your values and then refining them to your top six values.

2. The second step is placing them in priority from one – six.

You can read my previous blog on how to get your top six values here

Once you have your top six values in priority, give yourself a ‘high five’ as it’s no mean feat the first time you do this exercise. Take a breath and slowly (and I mean slowly) read your values one at a time. Then let yourself sit with them. You may even what to play around with them again.

Now we’re onto the third step. This is where it gets meaty for me and I love this next step.

3. Write down what each value means to you. Your definition is always focused with a relationship towards yourself. This is an internal connection, one that you can easy connect to by yourself, without anyone else’s influence or actions required. By creating your own definition, you place your stamp on it.

Again, take your time reading each value with their meaning and observe how you feel, your thoughts and any sensations in the body. This method allows you to connect and take ownership of your values. How you define each value, is what breathes life into them.

4. The fourth and final step is how you can action this value daily. The trick is to make it as simple as possible. It’s not about overloading our system or tasks in a day. It’s connecting what actions we do already with a value and their meaning. This way we are constantly reaffirming a value through a daily action.

5. Everyday for a month, find a spot and sit mindfully for three to five minutes a day and read your values, definitions and actions. We’re creating new habits and beliefs so keep on it and then read them every now and then.

For example, take the value ‘trust’ and give it a definition for ownership and with a daily action that connects you to your value.

Value               TRUST
Definition       I believe in me
Action             Every time I look up at the sky and pause, I believe in me

Here are my top six values for 2017!

1. COMMUNICATION
D Acknowledging my thoughts, feelings & sensations
A Every time I check in with me

2. CONNECTION
D A heart &/or soul frequency
A Every time I place my hand on my heart

3. RESPECT
D Being mindful
A Every time I breathe in and out

4. INTEGRITY
D Following through on my values with my actions, words & thoughts
A Every time I read my values

5. INTERDEPENDANCE
D I am
A Every time I say ‘I am’ with hands on my hips – Wonder Woman pose

6. GROWTH
D Taking a step outside my comfort zone
A Whenever I walk

Being aware of your values gives your conscious and unconscious mind a direction to move towards together. So those ‘Sliding Door’ moments can become more frequent. And as for magic, well that’s simply stepping into the rhythm of your life and choosing which opportunities work for you.

Do you Reiki your FOOD?

As we all know, Reiki has the beautiful ability to increase vitality, increase the life force of whatever it comes into contact with. Whether it be petrol for our car, a healing for a person or animal to just clearing and balancing the water we drink. There are so many ways to incorporate Reiki into our daily lives that the for me, it’s about how creative I can get with Reiki.

So how can Reiki change our food vibration?

We all need food to survive and for a lot of us, we’re short on time so fast food and packaged food can be staples in our diet. Choosing to Reiki our food can bring freshness and vitality back into our food, allowing for nutrients to return to their optimum levels. I infuse Reiki into my cooking all the time and it’s turned into a habit and quite a successful habit at that. Not only do I Reiki my food but I get a burst whilst of it for me while cooking!

The food always has this lightness to it in aroma, flavour, in texture and sensation (similar to how water tastes different once Reiki ed). When I share my meals with others (I’ve cooked), there is always a softness in conversation throughout the meal. As we digest our meal with a Reiki vibration, it also impacts on our own vibration. It mingles till these two vibrations integrate. Just imagine how healing and nurturing it is for our digestive system, for our organs and for our general well being. Don’t get me started on how it aids a blissful sleep either.

Last week my mum had eye surgery and stayed with me whilst she was recovering. Every meal was infused with Reiki for a speedy recovery and healing. I do have a neat little trick that I do for special folks that are feeling vulnerable or just unwell. I not only infuse Reiki into the meal but I also add love, joy and belonging into the vibration. So as you can imagine, my momma was up and about, bossing me around in no time again :D.

So next time you cook a meal or snack for yourself or friends, take a moment to Reiki your food prepping, cooking and presenting. It only takes a couple of moments to Reiki OR if you’re Reiki II level, place the symbols in our food and let magic happen!

Love to hear how Reiki has changed your lives AND if you’ve become known as a fab cook!

Why knowing our values is a #GameChanger

Why knowing our values is a #GameChanger

Have you ever thought about what guides you through life? What helps you to make decisions and take action? Now imagine going through life with a compass to guide you through uncertain terrain!

Many of us will cruise through life, figuring out what we want to have, what we want to achieve and who we want in our lives. Some of us will do this consciously whilst others, it’s more a gut feeling or perhaps life just moved in that way (more of an unconscious manner).

So what have VALUES got to do with this?

Values are the foundation of who and what we represent as person. Knowing what your values are, gives you an insight to who YOU are. Understanding our values will show us what our needs are and how we can meet them for our self.

However, if you’re not aware of your own set of values, then it’s like you’re flying solo in the middle of the amazon – without a map. Our values are like our own internal compass. When we get lost or go through a challenging time, it’s our values that keep us aligned. It’s our values that allow each part of ourselves to work together emotionally, physically and mentally. Even though, your motivation may be flat or you can’t figure out which direction to move into next – all parts of yourself are on the same page.

Now that’s how our values work as a compass.

A simple method to work out your top 6 values:

  1. Write down a whole bunch of values that are important to you                                                                                                                 e.g. communication, love, respect, growth, friendship, certainty – up to 20 maximum
  2. Circle 10 values that you really like
  3. Take the bottom 4 out and you are left with 6 values now
  4. Place your 6 values in order from 1 – 6
  5. Write them out on your wardrobe or bathroom mirror and read them everyday

By reading your values daily, you become more and more familiar with what’s important to you in life. All parts of  your life, with your family, friends, colleagues and career. Making decisions becomes easier when you have alignment between your physical, mental and emotional aspects of yourself.

Our personal values set the benchmark of who we are. Instead of compromising on who and want you want out of life, you step into knowing and understanding what drives and fulfils you. Understanding that our values represent our own internal compass, well now that’s a game changer!

To go more indepth on your values, you can read the next steps here 

15 things every mum needs to know about Meditation

15 things every mum needs to know about Meditation

Mums of today are like Wonder Woman, with their superhero ability to multi-task, juggle multiple roles as driver, teacher, personal chef, mediator, executive assistant, fixer and knower of all things (just to name a few). So in amongst the chaos of daily life, experiencing each moment, and taking time out to smell the roses isn’t always top of the to-do list, which is when we can miss out on some of the joys of motherhood.

What if you could add a new super power to your toolbox and all you needed was 5 minutes a day to start?

Below are just some of the best benefits of regular meditation for the busy mum.

 

  1. Finding your groove

Hustle and bustle means we’re always thinking and planning ahead. Simply put, we’re not enjoying being in the present. Finding your own rhythm where your body, your emotions and your mind are all in support of each other is something we take for granted.

  1. Tick Tock

You begin to become aware of each moment, what your thinking, what you’re feeling and with this, you’re able to pause and experience what is occurring within and around you. This is how we slow down our perception of time. What mum wouldn’t want to have extra time in their day?

  1. Heart to Heart love

Regular meditation can help you begin to empathise with your child, understanding their world with a lighter heart. Connecting to your child in the moment is one of the most beautiful experiences, especially when you feel and connect from the heart.

  1. Children are our mirrors of life

Children regardless of age respond to their parent’s energy states. Whether you’re in your head or riding your emotions, the more centred you become, the more you influence your child into this grounding state. A little bit of calmness on the home front can go along way.

  1. Awareness levels increase

If you have a toddler, you need eyes in the front and the back of your head. When you meditate regularly, your peripheral vision and sixth sense increases and you’re able to sense your little one in whole different way.

  1. Less outbursts

By lowering your cortisol and adrenalin levels, you make it more difficult to ride that emotional rollercoaster. The ups and downs lessen and you find your own even keel. Calm and steady days ahead.

  1. You are the FUN mum

Having more energy for you, your family and friends means you’re a joy to be around. Fun seems to follow you!

  1. Taking care of mummy

Meditation is one of the most nurturing ways to take care of you. It has a ripple effect into every aspect of your life and all those you interact with in a positive manner.

  1. Healthier and stronger you

Meditation helps boost your immune system and strengthen your heart. A strong immune system is just as infectious energetically as a belly laugh and we all know how good a laugh is for our immune system!

  1. Less blues

Being more grounded in your body stops that pattern of highs and lows. Having a high is great, however impossible to maintain and there is only one-way down. Finding your centre, your own rhythm gives you, your own internal barometer of how to measure yourself emotionally and mentally daily.

  1. Watch out kids

You’re even quicker thinking on your feet. So watch out kids, pulling one over mum’s eyes is almost as easy as walking on water.

  1. Parent time

Instead of collapsing after the kids go to bed, you’re energy levels are now more consistent. You have time to connect with your partner/friends; Time for being a grown up and not just a mum.

  1. Kids start to listen

Being a mum and getting your message across is no mean feat. So just imagine, you’ve found your own rhythm, you’ve slowed down time and your grounded. Everyone will be calmer around you and hear what you’re saying (be prepared, they still may not agree but that’s what being a mum is about)

  1. Sleep means Sleep

You actually get to recharge deeply during your sleep time instead of collapsing into bed exhausted, playing catch up.

  1. True to who you are

You set the foundation of values in your family by being the example that they all can experience. Learning by example is the greatest gift to share with your children, as we all know ‘do as I say and not as I do’ never really works.

So to start off with, all you need is up to 5 minutes a day of connecting with your breath. You can do this anywhere, in the shower, lying in bed or even sitting in car (make sure you’ve pulled over first). Mindfulness is just a focused state of awareness that you can do anywhere, anytime. So instead of being Wonder Woman, you’re now Super Woman (you can fly without that invisible plane) and meditation is your secret weapon.