It’s never easy having to make this decision – knowing when it’s time to say goodbye and how to go about it. Animals, for the most part, have an intuitive side that enables them to know when their time is drawing near. It’s instinctive to them. The hard part is for us humans, especially if the choice is left up to us. Vets can offer their opinions and will assist us and our pets as much as they can, however ultimately it is a family decision.
What I’ve discovered through my experience as an Animal Communicator, is that our pets want to maintain their dignity – just like us. One of the most important things for a pet is to feel included as a family member. They can’t talk like we can, so it’s important they are still able to use body language as a means of communication and interaction with their family. There may be certain physical challenges they can overcome, like if they lose a limb or become incontinent. What’s important to them is to have some measure of mobility and self-sufficiency. Dignity may be a strange choice of words in relation to an animal, but let me give you a simple example – have you ever watched your pet go to the toilet and you get the feeling or look that they’re telling you NOT to watch? Or perhaps you’re with a friend and you tell them to look away as you know your pet hates being watched at this time. Dignity – even our pets can relate to this!
If your pet is sick and/or senior, it’s hard to fathom what life would be like without them – I totally understand this. Our pets have family status – they’re not just an ‘animal’ that happens to cohabit with us. We love and cherish them. They are a family member and because of this we don’t want them to go, therefore we don’t let them go.
Part of knowing when it’s time, is emotionally letting your pet know they can let go when they’re ready. Our animals have the ability to hold on longer for us – its not easy for them to see us in emotional turmoil either. One of the ways I encourage people to do this is to sit with your pet. Have a quiet moment with them and allow yourself to connect. Share with them through feelings and thoughts how you feel about them. Some of you may want to talk out loud to your pet – if this works for you then go ahead. And, when you feel the time is right, tell them they can let go when they’re ready and you will be ok. You may even ask for a sign from them to help you know when it’s time.
You can let them know that they will be deeply missed, however you know it’s their time. Be prepared as there may be tears in this space, but our beautiful friends are worth every drop.
By connecting with your pet in this manner, you also prepare yourself and your family for making the decision of when it’s time. You will never know 100% whether it’s the right time or not but you will get a feeling when your pet has had enough. Having this decision to make also allows the family to express themselves and say their goodbyes and that, in itself, is a gift.
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Intro 2hr Animal Communication Workshop
22nd July Monday 7-9pm Double Bay $45.00